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Coping With A Relationship Break Up… Easier Than You Think?

Thursday, January 28, 2010

Coping with a relationship break up is hard. No bones about it. In fact, many consider it is one of the hardest things that most people will find themselves forced to do.

But it is also a very common experience, and although what works for someone else may not work for you, the mere fact that you can see what other people have gone through  and survived, can be enough to pull you through too.

The first thing that you need to do is accept that the relationship has indeed failed. . .at least for now. While there is a possibility of picking up the pieces again later on, for now, you shouldn’t be thinking about that. Instead, do not try to contact your ex if at all possible. Many split couples have kids involved so you will have to have some contact for their sake. But keep it to a minimum.

Once you’ve accepted the fact that you are really on your own now, you need to make sure that you are focusing on yourself. Take time to do those things that you never had time for while you were together. While it’s important to go out with friends or family, you also want to spend some time alone. Reflect on your past relationship and how the break-up evolved. It is really never just the fault of one person in the partnership. Both parties contribute to a split.

Making sure that you take care of yourself is a huge part of coping with a relationship break up. You definitely should be eating the right foods, exercising and getting enough sleep. Try to stick to a balanced diet with lots of fruit, vegetables and fiber. Exercising does not have to be extremely rigorous but many people find that a good workout really helps them get all their stress and anger out. It also increases endorphins in your body which make you feel better. If you dread exercising, just go for a walk every day. Pick some form of activity that you can do consistently.

Finally, getting the right amount of sleep is crucial. Well-rested people look better and feel better. Those who lack in sleep look worn out,  and feel edgy, hungrier and depressed.

When you are taking care of yourself, your self-esteem increases and you are more attractive to others. Once you are feeling more confident, you can reassess your situation and ask yourself if you think it’s worth it to try to mend your relationship. Some people decide that it’s not. Others will give it a try and with their new and improved self-esteem, the odds are good… although of course, a lot depends on the other person.

Coping with a relationship break up has a lot to do with mending your soul and spirit. If you can stick to a plan and rely on friends and family to help you out, you will find yourself at the end of the tunnel.

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How To Be Sweet To Your Girlfriend… And Be A Real Man!

Friday, December 18, 2009

Keeping a woman happy is not always easy, but with a little work and effort, you can be sweet to your girlfriend in a way that not only ensures you  keep her happy, but makes you a real man in the process!

How?  Telling her you love her is one step, but avoid over-saying it as the words become meaningless.  Try telling her in other ways such as leaving a note under her pillow or sending her a message when she is not expecting it.

You could send her a card when it’s not her birthday, your anniversary or any other special occasion.

Make a list of all the reasons why you love her and stick it somewhere like inside her fridge or just inside the washing machine.  She may not notice it for a few days but when she does she will light up like a candle.

Find a book of poetry and write her a love poem. She will love it.  When you are out and about, put your arm around her waist as it shows that you are proud to be seen with her.

If she is upset, listen to her and try to reassure her without giving her the impression that you don’t think she will be able to sort out the problem on her own.

Compliment her not just when she has dressed up for a special occasion but when she is just lounging around relaxing. Find things that you love about her, her tousled hair, her long legs, the back of her neck etc and tell her how lovely she is.  Girls love compliments, especially when they are not expected.  If she is trying to lose pounds, tell her she looks really slim today.

Never put your girl down or make unkind remarks about her even in the middle of an argument. Sure, sometimes it’s hard not to get personal but try your best.  Apologize if you do say something hurtful and don’t do it again.

Remember to tell her how happy she makes you and how much your life has improved with her in it.

Arrange surprises for her.  Take her to a chick flick or a musical or the theater even if you would prefer to have your eyeballs stapled.  Doing things for the lady in your life will end up making you both happier.  Shared memories make relationships stronger and help you both get through the bad days.

In case you run out of ideas on how to be sweet to your girlfriend, find a great book on relationships and read it.

If you really love this woman you don’t want to lose her over something silly.  Women leave men for all sorts of reasons and cheating is only one of them. They leave if they feel unappreciated or taken for granted.  Don’t let this happen to you, as great partners don’t come around every day.

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Cut Out The Stress… Advice On Love To Save Your Relationship

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Stress! It’s tough to keep any relationships strong, and if you want to save your relationship, just finding the time to work on it can be a challenge. But there may be an answer! In this article, let’s look at some very good advice on love to save your relationship. It’s aimed at all the overly stressed busy people who still want to make their relationships work.

Here are 3 things you can start doing today to keep your relationship strong, or pull it back from the brink. It’s not so much about how much time you spend together, it’s more about the quality of time that the two of you spend together. Keep that in mind when going over the list:

1. Figure out what activities that the two of you like to do as a couple. It doesn’t matter if it’s a round of golf or a trip to the local movie theater. As long as you can share an experience that is enjoyable, for both of you. When it’s your time, make arrangements for the kids to spend the night at grandma’s, turn off the cell phones and Blackberries, take the phone off the hook, and turn off the t.v. This is about connecting with each other, not just co-existing in the same place at the same time.

This is so important for two reasons. One, it will allow you time to relax and unwind from the stresses of life. That will help each of you individually and also will allow both of you to bring more to the relationship since you’ll be more relaxed and at ease. And two, it gives the two of you precious memories that you can relive from time to time with each other. It’s fun to have shared experiences where you can say ‘remember when we did…’? That creates a deeper bond between the two of you.

2. So many couples only talk about mundane daily things like asking your spouse if they had a good day, or if they picked up milk on the way home. Try to make time each week to really talk. Don’t turn it into a complaining time, just talk. Tell your partner about your dreams, relive some fun past times, etc. Make it a positive time. Really be willing to talk, and listen, and let each other into your minds a little bit.

3. Try to always remind yourself what it was that first attracted you to your partner. Was it their laugh, their offbeat sense of humor, their goofy expressions? Whatever it was don’t let yourself forget that. And while you’re reminding yourself, make sure to let them know too. If you fell in love with their laugh, tell them, often, that you love the way they laugh. So much of that positive reinforcement seems to go out the window the longer the relationship goes on. And that’s a shame. Everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated, don’t ever let your partner feel like you don’t find that thing you fell in love with attractive anymore.

A loving relationship is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Many people will tell you that relationships are ‘hard’ and that they ‘take a lot of work’. I don’t agree. I believe that if you are with the right person, if you’re both mature adults who really want to make the relationship work, and if you know what to look out for, your relationship can be very easy. Just use this advice on love to save your relationship as a starting point.

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Magnetic Dating Advice For Women

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Rori Raye says this magnetic dating advice for women can take you from insecure to magnetic in a blink of an eye.

If you’ve ever been seeing a man – and very carefully not been demanding or had a “talk” about where the “relationship is going,” not pressured him or asked for any kind of commitment – and then he says “I need space…” as if you HAD been pressuring him, I know exactly how frustrating that can be.

You want to scream “I didn’t ask you for a commitment!” And that’s where the problem is.

No matter what we do and say, our “vibe” is what our man hears.

He may not know how, but he knows what you “really” want even if you’re hiding it not only from him, but from YOURSELF.

How does that work? And how can we solve this so that we don’t lose a man for EITHER reason – either because we don’t make it clear what we really want and so we somehow seem like we’re “withholding” or pretending” to be one way when we really feel another way – or by flat-out pushing and pressuring him? It’s all so easy if you’re not in love with him.

I mean – if you feel like he’s a friend, and you don’t have the “tingles” when you’re with him and you don’t care if he calls or if you see him – it’s easy.

In that situation, there isn’t ANY part of you that wants MORE.

You’re probably looking for the man you REALLY want to show up, and are just “making do” with the guy in front of you now.

But what if you DO care for a man? What if you DO feel the “tingles” and you DO want MORE with him? And what if you tell him you DON’T want more, and try to be casual? What if you never mention your dreams for your own future? What if you “play it” casual? Well – what happens when we try to take the pressure off of a man by steering clear of our REAL desires for a REAL relationship is that we make him feel UNSAFE.

That’s right.

And I know it sounds wrong, because you’d think it would do the opposite.

You’d think he’d feel SAFE.

But no.

Because this is what he “gets” from being with us: He “senses,” on a deep level, because of the “vibe” we put out, and because we can’t help feeling what we feel on some level we might not even be aware of (we may think we’re so good at “playing” it casual we don’t realize that he can pick up on our “seriousness” anyway) that we WANT him, and WANT a relationship with him – but that, for some reason, we’re holding back on letting him see how we really feel.

And the moment he picks up that you’re holding back – he feels unsafe.

He figures, on some deep level he’s not even aware of, that if you can’t handle YOUR feelings – you certainly won’t be able to handle HIS feelings.

Men are a mass of jumbled emotions just as much as we are – and their biggest dream for love is to be totally ACCEPTED for who they are – ALL parts of them.

That’s what makes them feel safe.

And if you don’t love and accept yourself completely – even the parts of yourself you think are weak, ugly and yucky – then he’ll have difficulty feeling safe with you.

Even your boundaries in what you will and will not tolerate from a man make him feel safe.

He feels that if you can take care of yourself emotionally, his emotions – and his secrets – will be safe with you! To really learn how to do this – how to make a man feel safe and draw him in close to you, and how to keep that balance of WANTING a real, close, intimate relationship, and letting him SEE that, without pushing him away by asking HIM to provide it for you, you’ll want to sign up for my free e-letters and take a look at my new program:

“The Modern Siren”

I know this balance of inner strength and outer softness seems very subtle – but you can do it so easily.

It’s a very “organic” process, from the inside out – and it’s FUN! Here’s a letter from Laurie, who’s struggling with this issue – she’ hasn’t “demanded” anything from her man – so she’s upset that he suddenly needs “space”:

“Dear Rori, I recently downloaded your e-book on “Have the Relationship You Want” because I know I have a problem. However, it wasn’t my own mind that made me act upon downloading it – it was a 5 month dating ‘relationship’ that started my search.

I meet this quirky guy on St. Patrick’s day just this year. In the beginning I didn’t jump on the dates right away. I waited a few weeks before deciding to go out. We started dating once a week. He called me, he asked me out by Tuesday for the weekend. Things were wonderful for the first 2 1/2 months. He was open about being recently divorced and he knew I was very concerned about that but he assured me he was okay.

Then my 15 year-old niece came to visit – he was excited to entertain the both of us, and all 3 of us did something every weekend. Then something dramatically changed – my niece had been calling him my “boyfriend,” and right after she left he stated he was not ready to be in a relationship and he needed his freedom. He said that having to see his ex-wife a lot recently made him realize he wasn’t ready for a ‘relationship’.

I was upset with him. I never ‘asked’ for a relationship. I never put any restrictions on him.

I wanted to get to know him and learn who ‘he’ was – without me ‘controlling’ any aspect of his actions. We tried to continue for another month but the tension was too high. I’d already received rejection and I became a ‘different’ person.

Always unsure of what was happening. Also questioning the situation because I was hurt.

I have NEVER been in a relationship where I can take it slow and try not to guide or manipulate the course. I should NOT be this upset because it has only been 5 months. I want ‘it’ and I want ‘it’ right away and if it is not happening on my time frame I make the other person miserable. By actions of emotional overload because I can’t stop ‘talking’ about this issues at hand.

He said he wants to “slow down,” and I don’t know if I can handle slowing down – but I should be able to. This is where EVERY relationship ends the same way – at the first sign of ‘uncertainty’ I freak out and start wondering and asking questions that are pushing men away.

My friends say I just have to meet someone who can handle me – but deep down I know I need to change. I guess I am scared to use this existing situation to try putting your exercises and advice into practice – it will hurt so bad if I know he is ‘dating’ but I should be dating and not worrying about what he is doing. Can you give me any words of advice? I am EXTREMELY frightened to try to start fixing myself now because I keep worrying about what he is doing and not living my life. Thanks, Laurie”

Fear is a bummer.

It stops us from getting what we want, when all fear was ever designed to do is protect us from harm.

So – how can we use fear the way it’s meant to be used – to be a red flag and a warning – and NOT let it run us and get in the way of our true happiness? This is an issue therapists and authors have been dealing with for centuries.

And although I can’t solve it for you in one eLetter, I can help you with a baby-step that will put you on the right path, and show you how to keep moving down that right path in an easy, fun way.

Fear is NEVER going to go away.

The Nasty Voice inside your head that’s telling you to “Be Afraid” is never going to go away.

The horror movie business would disappear if fear weren’t the overwhelming emotion for nearly everyone.

So – the trick is to LIVE with it.

In fact, to use the ENERGY of fear to GET what you want! Okay, so let’s get specific for Laurie’s situation.

I truly want to say “Bravo” to Laurie for saying that even though her friends say she needs a man who can “handle” her – she knows, deep down that the way to go is to make changes in herself, first.

There are whole sets of Tools in all of my products that deal with getting past fear, and let’s look at a tiny baby-step you can do now.

FEAR MOVES.

It moves around your body, it moves from one idea to another, from one image to another, from one situation to another.

If you are afraid of moths and then overcome that fear, it doesn’t mean you are through with FEAR for life – there will always be fear. But also…

FEAR GROWS.

And it GETS SMALLER, too.

You can work to make fear smaller, or you can work to make fear bigger.

This is where you have a choice.

Right now, it’s easier and less scary for Laurie to focus on what’s going on with her man than to focus on herself and her fears about getting a passionate, thrilling, satisfying life whether or not her man is in it. (I know it sounds worse, but our minds are fiercely weird sometimes.) This fear is about the Unknown – about what MIGHT happen.

Since we have no way to truly know what WILL happen, we’re always reacting with our fear of what MIGHT happen.

That fear stops us in our tracks, and pretty much pushes our men away.

So – I want you to CHOOSE to make fear smaller.

And how do you do that? With baby-steps.

That means you take a baby-step toward what you’re most afraid of.

And when you discover you’ve not only lived through that but feel actually STRONGER because of the step you took – you’ll feel excited to take ANOTHER baby-step.

And with every baby-step, some old fears get smaller – and maybe some new ones get bigger.

That’s why SUCCESS is usually so much scarier than failure! At least we KNOW what failure is all about – but success seems almost unknowable.

But guess what – even while fears are moving around and getting smaller and growing bigger and then getting smaller again – YOU’VE MOVED!! Yep – YOU’RE closer to SUCCESS! So for Laurie – a great baby-step would be to start doing something for herself.

Not just the normal things – going out with girlfriends or getting a massage – but TRYING something NEW.

Perhaps volunteering to help others through an organization.

Perhaps signing up on a dating site or trying speed dating.

Perhaps starting a new business.

Let me know about every baby-step you take, I’m thrilled to hear how fear moves around you, in you – and how it gets smaller and smaller until you get exactly what you want!

Love, Rori

In her workshops, classes, private coaching and new book, relationship coach Rori Raye teaches women the completely original, simple-to-do and stunningly effective techniques for communication, confidence, and connecting with men that she used to turn her own now-glorious eighteen-year marriage around.

Go here to sign up for Rori’s free newsletters

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Being ‘Too Nice’ To Women, Not Understanding Attraction, And Feeling That Frustration That Drives Guys Crazy…

Friday, September 4, 2009

This time I’m going to “mix it up” a little…

I get a lot of questions like the three that you’re about to read.

A LOT of them.

In fact, I get so many HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDS of them emailed to me that I’m beginning to realize that I need to write another newsletter about this particular topic… even though I’ve written about ten billion of them now.

Read these emails… and nod your head if you’ve found yourself in a similar situation:

***QUESTION #1***

Dave-

I’ve been receiving your newsletters and although I’m a little skeptical, I thought I’d ask you a question. I live in Las Vegas where I attend UNLV (I’m in a fraternity), play in a kick-ass rock band, AND work as a bouncer in a nightclub on the Strip. Now, given my situation, one would think that I’m just ROLLING in women, yet the only game I get is from older chicks and gay dudes. And when I do go out with hotties, I can’t get them to call me back; girls my age just aren’t attracted to me like they used to be. I’m smart, funny, I make decent cash, drive a nice car and all my “friend-girls” constantly tell me how hot I am. What the hell am I doing wrong?

Sincerely,
A.P.

***QUESTION #2***

I recently had surgery and during that time a female “surgical consultant” gave me guidelines of what the surgery would be like and how to prepare for it. In a nutshell, she was really hot. The problem is we have talked on the phone about the surgery and the results and finances with insurance. The problem is that it’s only been on a professional level. She is fairly friendly, she doesn’t avoid my calls, and she doesn’t try to get off the phone quickly.

So I had her business card and I recently wrote her an email , to her WORK email address, on Friday and said thanks for all the help and asked her out for coffee and she emailed me back right away and said that “I am too nice” and totally avoided answering the “coffee” date. So I emailed her back that same Friday and said that “you totally avoided the coffee question.” Today’s Monday and she since hasn’t replied to my email about going out for coffee. I feel like writing her back instead of waiting for her reply. Is this a sign that she is not interested in me? What do I do? How do I get her to at least go out for coffee with me. If she does go out for coffee with me, how do I keep her interested in me? You are my last resort for advice. If your advice works, then I am definitely going to buy your programs. Please help!

A.S.
Los Angeles

***QUESTION #3***

I am recently divorced and am 32 years old. Haven’t dated since I was 21. So I have just kind of thrown myself back out there. A friend of mine told me about you and this newsletter so I started reading it and am fascinated by your advice. I have always been the nice guy- ready with an honest compliment and holding the door etc. Its not an act – its just how I am.

But I seem to be sensing a problem with this…

With my friends and gal pals I get the “you’re too nice” comment all the time. I am still trying to figure out how you can be too nice. How can you be too much of a gentleman? Is this truly something that can kind of trip you up dating these days, if you are like me?

Thanks

DK – Denver, Colorado

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It’s interesting for me to read questions like these.

The FIRST thing that pops into my mind when I see a question like this one is:

“He doesn’t get it.”

That’s it.

He doesn’t get it.

Now, I guess it’s probably obvious that a guy who writes me “doesn’t get” SOMETHING.

If he did, he wouldn’t write in for help.

I know, I know. I’m a logical genius.

Shut up.

But stay with me here…

The three guys who wrote in above all have VERY different situations.

But I really believe that they all have the same basic PROBLEM.

They’re running up against totally different challenges, but I believe that if they all understood a few keys about women and ATTRACTION, everything would change for EACH of them.

So let’s talk about those key things.

Here are a few of my key ideas:

1) ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice.

2) Women don’t feel ATTRACTION for “nice” guys who kiss up to them.

3) If you don’t GET how ATTRACTION works, then it almost doesn’t matter WHAT you do. Nothing will work.

4) If you DO get how ATTRACTION works, then you can do almost ANYTHING, and it will work for you.

Let’s take ‘em one at a time…

ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE

Women don’t “choose” to feel ATTRACTION.

BANG! It just happens.

And let me ask you something.

Do you think that the mechanism that causes women to feel ATTRACTION… the one that has evolved over millions of years… before language, before MTV, before you learned how to kiss women’s asses… is LOGICAL?

Here’s a hint:

No.

The bottom line is that if you interact with a woman long enough that she forms an “impression” of you, and she doesn’t “feel it” for you, then you’re done.

It’s over.

And no amount of chasing her around, buying her things, and being “nice” is going to do the trick.

It’s NOT a CHOICE, man!

WOMEN DON’T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR “NICE” GUYS WHO KISS UP TO THEM

Remember the guy above who asked the question “How can you be too nice?”.

Answer:

You already know… DUH.

Now I’m going to ask YOU a question…

WHY are you BEING nice in the FIRST place?

Right, right.

It’s because you WANT something.

“Oh, no”, you argue…

“It’s because I’m a NICE GUY.”

Or maybe you think that you were born this way… to be “nice”.

Or maybe you’ve even convinced yourself that it’s the “right” thing to do.

Well, it’s really pretty funny that the answer is staring you right in the face.

You keep proving to yourself over and over and OVER again that NICE DOESN’T WORK.

By the way, I love it when guys write in to me and say “I don’t want to use the things you teach because I don’t like the idea of MANIPULATING women”.

Then I ask “Do you buy women dinner, or take them out?”.

Of course, the answer is always “Yes”.

I ask “Why?”.

But I already know the answer…

IT’S TO MANIPULATE WOMEN.

Yep. And then the same guy says “Yea, but THAT’S DIFFERENT”.

OK, before I get too far off track here, let’s just summarize and say that it is EASY to be ““too nice”.

And it REALLY screws up your chances with women when you are.

Women are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES.

“Overly nice” equals “Wussy”.

Remember that.

IF YOU DON’T “GET” HOW ATTRACTION WORKS, THEN IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT YOU DO. NOTHING WILL WORK.

Think about the concept of ATTRACTION for a moment.

What is it?

Is it important?

Is it the same for men and women?

Do you KNOW how it works for women?

Have you ever taken the time to LEARN how it works for women?

Have you ever CARED how it works for women?

Are you guilty of spending more time thinking about what you’re going to leave on your outgoing voicemail message than thinking about this topic?

Well, let’s get something straight…

MOST men, and I’m talking about 95% of them, have NO IDEA how or why women feel that amazing emotion called ATTRACTION for some men.

And if they DO have an idea, it’s usually DEAD WRONG.

All most guys know is that women don’t feel ATTRACTION for THEM.

It’s obvious that our three poster children above haven’t a clue about how and why women feel ATTRACTION.

Read their emails again right now.

You’ll get what I’m talking about.

Notice something about these emails.

Notice that they all seem to be focusing on what they’re DOING, rather than what they KNOW.

“I’m in a rock band and I’m a bouncer at a hot club… but that doesn’t work…”

“I sent her an email, but that didn’t work…”

“I’m a nice guy, but that doesn’t work…”

Can you see it?

THEY DON’T GET IT.

If they did, their emails would be totally different.

IF YOU DO GET HOW ATTRACTION WORKS THEN ALMOST ANYTHING WILL WORK…

Here’s the interesting part of all of this.

If you will take the time to LEARN how and why women feel that interesting and magical emotional response called ATTRACTION for some rare men, and not for ALL THE OTHER men running around, then EVERYTHING changes.

Here are a few interesting points…

There are a few physical cues, or specific types of “body language” that instantly tell a woman whether or not you’re a guy that is even worth a SECOND GLANCE…

If you don’t know what these things are, and how to use them, then the game will be over before it has even started.

Scary.

Women test men CONSTANTLY.

And ATTRACTIVE women test men MUCH MORE INTENSELY than “regular” women.

If you don’t know how to spot these tests (and most of them are very subtle), and then deal with them, you’re going to lose your chance to create ATTRACTION before you even GET it.

Being “nice” isn’t the way.

If you want to chase a woman around for six months, buy her tons of gifts, take her on a bunch of expensive dates, and HOPE for a chance to have her as your girlfriend, then keep doing what you’ve always done.

This is the PRIMARY way that men approach the topic of “women and dating”.

I’d say that, on average, if you’re REALLY REALLY NICE, and you buy her lots of extra-nice stuff, and take a woman on at least 20 dates over a 3-month time period, that you’ll have about a 10% chance of her “falling for you”.

That’s just a guess.

But it’s probably pretty accurate.

On the OTHER hand, if you want to be the kind of guy that has women FLIRTING with you within MINUTES of talking to them, then you’re going to need to do something else ENTIRELY.

And if you want to be the kind of guy that actually has so many options, so many dates, and so many women interested in him that you just can’t take all their calls, then you’re going to need a COMPLETE OVERHAUL in your thinking, behavior, and perspective.

Yes, it can be done, but “nice” isn’t the way to do it.

Here’s the irony:

Women DON’T WANT WUSSIES!

No no no!

Women are looking for MEN.

You know, a MAN?

I have a theory…

I think so many women are turning into lesbians because even WOMEN have more balls these days than most men.

You probably think I’m joking…

OK, so what should us guys do to:

1) Stop being “too nice”…

2) Learn how ATTRACTION works for women…

3) Meet and date more women successfully…

NOW THOSE are some GREAT questions!

Step 1 is to OPEN YOUR MIND to a new way of seeing things.

I watched guy who were REALLY successful with women for a LONG TIME… with my OWN TWO EYES… before I started to actually SEE what was going on.

And at first it just plain didn’t make sense AT ALL.

But once I began to understand it, everything came together in a “blinding flash of the obvious”.

Next, you need to realize that “nice” and ATTRACTION are two different things.

And they’re NOT related.

Finally, you need to GET AN EDUCATION about this topic.

It amazes me that a man will go to college, spend a hundred grand OR MORE, and feel satisfied walking out of that educational experience STILL not having learned how to be successful with women.

Amazing.

It amazes me EVEN MORE that guys don’t make the decision to actually LEARN this stuff.

Blows my mind.

Now, I’ve spent OVER five years working on this particular topic.

It took me a good 2+ years just to BEGIN to get a handle on what was going on.

It took me another year or so, AFTER I started to understand, to actually get GOOD.

After all that, I spent quite a bit of time writing notes to myself, discussing the techniques that I’ve learned and created, and putting it all together.

What’s the result?

Well, now I have several great programs that I’ve designed to help teach guys how to meet and date women successfully.

And my stuff doesn’t just focus on “what” to do. It ALSO focuses on THE WHY, and the WHEN, and the HOW.

In my eBook, “Double Your Dating”, I spend several dozen pages on this topic of ATTRACTION… how it developed, how it works, and how to understand it.

I get TONS of email from guys who say “Wow, this really opened my eyes and gave me a totally new perspective… and THAT is the thing that has made the difference”.

Of course, I also teach DOZENS of amazing techniques for everything from approaching women to getting numbers to taking things to a “physical” level.

The eBook is a complete education. Check it out here:

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When you follow that link, you’ll also be able to sign up for my FREE Dating Tips Newsletter… which is packed with even more great secrets.

I recommend that you take advantage of these resources.

I’ve put a lot of time, effort, and energy into them, and this is the first time in HISTORY that something quite like this has been available.

Go check them out.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

David DeAngelo is the author of “Double Your Dating – What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women”, and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and dating.

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